Jealousy

“In my opinion jealousy is a side-effect of a mindset that’s rooted in scarcity. Jealousy is the emotion resulting from the notion that another person’s success or happiness somehow diminishes your own. If you look at the world from the lens of abundance instead of scarcity, it’s very difficult to become jealous.”- Steve Pavlina.

Another person's success does not mark your own lack of success. Another person's success is merely an indicator of what life has in store for them. Every one has their own path but not everyone has the right to denigrate anothers'.  Every person has the ability to change their life around by coming to terms with their soul, their heart, their needs and wants and CHANGING. We all have the ability to change but some do not have the motivation of others. Your own lack of motivation does not give you the right to demean another's well of motivation.

“The thermometer of success is merely the jealousy of the malcontents.”
Salvador Dali

"The above quote by Salvador Dali really captures what jealousy is all about. People sometimes look at successful people and become jealous of their success. Jealousy obfuscates the mind, in turn hindering our ability to think clearly and reasonably. Thinking is one of the special gifts that makes us human. When jealousy kicks in, we lose that thinking quality. We thus become less human. No wonder jealousy is referred to as the green-eyed monster."

In this case successful people meaning people who are taking steps towards their dreams. People who are actively working hard, and actively putting in the effort to get where they want to get. Success does not readily mark corporate success, success in my opinion is living your ideal or working hard towards you ideal and being happy knowing that your only one step closer, OR as close as you're going to get. The ideal is a notion that can change as one receives new information during the course of life therefore the ideal is never realized but one can always improve one's situation, life, relationships as the new definition of ideal is improved. In my opinion, SUCCESS= conscious improvement, hard work, natural talents/skills, passion, connections, and risk taking. All depend on what you want to achieve of course. I BELIEVE that in life one can achieve and obtain anything one wants as long as one is willing to put in the hard work and effort to build upon natural/ or learned talents/skills. The sky is the limit.  I live my life by that mentality. Always have. It's been difficult at times but I have always been able to rise even when I have fallen through the deepest emotional canyons. For this reason one should never let others unconscious jealousy and tattered ego's become roadblocks.

If you want something bad enough then you can do it.

Crab Theory

Interested in studying the Crab Theory: To move up, do u necessarily need to bring other people down?

Is it a minority thing that we cannot see others succeed, or come up to the same level we have reached? How does jealousy, selfishness and goals to achieve within an under priviledged group of people affect or has effect in this theory? umh...Something I've been meaning to understand for a while, but there's not too much to it, just the reality matter...

In essence, the crab theory refers to the idea that you never need to put a top on a barrel of crabs to prevent escape, because they’re all too busy pulling at each other’s legs and climbing on each other’s backs to think of working together and pushing each other out. It is a mentality that if I cannot have it neither can you!!

This term is broadly associated with short-sighted, non-constructive thinking rather than a unified, long-term, constructive mentality. It is also often used colloquially in reference to individuals or communities attempting to "escape" a so-called "underprivileged life", but kept from doing so by others attempting to ride upon their coat-tails or those who simply resent their success. It first was spread a among the Deaf community but can be applied to any other unprivileged group.

It describes a desperate lust to pull other people down, denigrating them rather than letting them get ahead or pursue their dreams. It is an unwillingness to allow someone to get out of dire or bad life situations, often being foiled by friends and family members who keep sucking them back in. This trait can strike at several levels of life, like in office environments, particularly on promotion. It is a reflection of the famous saying “we all like to see our friends get ahead, but not too far ahead.”

Why when people of the same group see others of their own group succeeding pushing ahead through barriers are they most apt to bring them down through many devious underhanded ways without showing restraint??

A well known joke in Canada goes as follows:

Q. Why don't you need to cover a Canadian Lobster pot?
A. Because the other Lobsters will drag down anyone that tries to climb out.

And isn't that right!! haha.

This is done through vicious gossip (back-stabbing), spreading false rumors (slander), sending hateful e-mails, etc. It’s based on a real-life phenomenon: when crabs are captured and tossed into a bucket, if one crab tries to escape by crawling up the inside of the bucket, the other crabs pull it back down. It’s probably instinctive, a panic response on their part.

So no crabs ever escape. This behavior in crabs is widely held to be a myth, but has been observed. When successful leaders of any background complain about the lack of support and downright hostility they encounter from members of their own communities, that’s the crab theory….