LOVE quota

Love. In life there are quotas for everything. For every person we meet there is a quota of love that we can give to that person. Every person we meet is initially allotted a different amount of love. Not by us but by fate.  Once that person uses up their quota there is no more that can be given. Even if you wanted to continue loving that person, as you used to, you just can not. I have experienced this, you have experienced it, and so has the rest of the world.  Because the source of love has dried out. You have already given up all that could have been given. People live their lives unconscious to this rule of life and feel that love from a single source will forever abound.

There are only so many times you are willing to risk for one person, stand up for one person, hope, trust, expect, understand, sympathize until there's no more to give. Its an unconscious effortless act of humanity which once extracted from the fountain from which it was derived is gone forever. Sometimes it just runs out. There is only so much abuse, neglect, criticism, lies, deception, a person can take before they decide that it is time to conclude that chapter. And when you close that chapter don't feel bad. .

There are those that allow people back in their life that do not deserve it. Sometimes people come into your life to teach you a lesson or to serve you company during that portion of your life. This does not mean that if they did not treat you the way you wanted to be treated or if they are  not what you are looking for in a partner anymore that you should allow them back in. Cut the ties. Cut the umbilical cord.

If it did not work out the first, second, or third time what are the chances that it will work out again? Unless you are willing to go to therapy or make a life decision to both change together ITS NOT!!!!. People don't change deep down inside unless something life altering happens to them. DON'T be fooled by the facade of change or fake promises. Eventually the veracity of their character will be revealed directly or by underhanded ways. If you continue to allow someone back into your life after they screwed you over literally and figuratively they will view you as easily replaceable. They lose respect for you and see you as a quick fix. Since they already know you and what you are all about they know how to best manipulate you and tell you what you want to hear and keep you wrapped in their web of lies. In life it pays to be strong and have the ability to walk away. Never look back.

In order to succeed in life and be HAPPY you MUST eliminate poisonous manipulative people.  Don't worry about their feelings because they usually never stop to think about yours until it hits them that its OFICIALLY over. Funny thing is that these abusers do not realize until its too late, and many times (not all) they come back in different ways ( text, email, call, etc.). The reason they return is because you brought more goodness into their life than they did to you, and they like that imbalance. They want to maintain that in order to feel control. They want to return in order to leach off of all the good qualities you have and when they take what they want they WILL leave again. They know exactly what they are doing. They know you have things they do not. These people are not stupid. Remember they belong to the category of takers not giver and want to return because they benefit from you but never stop to think that the relationship is in no way, shape, or form beneficial to you. Do not allow imbalance of LOVE and APPRECIATION in your life.

When these abusers return don' t be angry, or sad, be happy and even PROUD that this person cannot find anything better than you. OBVIOUSLY NO one can provide what you can, in the way you can, so therefore they come back to see how much they can continue to leach off of you. Cut these energy vampires with their insecurities, lack of motivation, lack of follow through, lack of character, and whatever else they lack OUT OF YOUR LIFE. Only allow people who bring good things to your life not the worthless who suck all your positive energy. Now that you are wiser use this as an opportunity to reflect is this really what you want?? Funny thing is many times they blame things on you, and do not take responsibility for their actions and later out of the blue when you have moved on and no longer even think about them they return. For more. BEWARE OF THESE LEACHES.

Jealousy

“In my opinion jealousy is a side-effect of a mindset that’s rooted in scarcity. Jealousy is the emotion resulting from the notion that another person’s success or happiness somehow diminishes your own. If you look at the world from the lens of abundance instead of scarcity, it’s very difficult to become jealous.”- Steve Pavlina.

Another person's success does not mark your own lack of success. Another person's success is merely an indicator of what life has in store for them. Every one has their own path but not everyone has the right to denigrate anothers'.  Every person has the ability to change their life around by coming to terms with their soul, their heart, their needs and wants and CHANGING. We all have the ability to change but some do not have the motivation of others. Your own lack of motivation does not give you the right to demean another's well of motivation.

“The thermometer of success is merely the jealousy of the malcontents.”
Salvador Dali

"The above quote by Salvador Dali really captures what jealousy is all about. People sometimes look at successful people and become jealous of their success. Jealousy obfuscates the mind, in turn hindering our ability to think clearly and reasonably. Thinking is one of the special gifts that makes us human. When jealousy kicks in, we lose that thinking quality. We thus become less human. No wonder jealousy is referred to as the green-eyed monster."

In this case successful people meaning people who are taking steps towards their dreams. People who are actively working hard, and actively putting in the effort to get where they want to get. Success does not readily mark corporate success, success in my opinion is living your ideal or working hard towards you ideal and being happy knowing that your only one step closer, OR as close as you're going to get. The ideal is a notion that can change as one receives new information during the course of life therefore the ideal is never realized but one can always improve one's situation, life, relationships as the new definition of ideal is improved. In my opinion, SUCCESS= conscious improvement, hard work, natural talents/skills, passion, connections, and risk taking. All depend on what you want to achieve of course. I BELIEVE that in life one can achieve and obtain anything one wants as long as one is willing to put in the hard work and effort to build upon natural/ or learned talents/skills. The sky is the limit.  I live my life by that mentality. Always have. It's been difficult at times but I have always been able to rise even when I have fallen through the deepest emotional canyons. For this reason one should never let others unconscious jealousy and tattered ego's become roadblocks.

If you want something bad enough then you can do it.

Rules

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anwyay. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness. people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may be never enough. Give your best anyway. For you, in the end, it is between you and yourself. It never was between you and them anyway.

Crab Theory

Interested in studying the Crab Theory: To move up, do u necessarily need to bring other people down?

Is it a minority thing that we cannot see others succeed, or come up to the same level we have reached? How does jealousy, selfishness and goals to achieve within an under priviledged group of people affect or has effect in this theory? umh...Something I've been meaning to understand for a while, but there's not too much to it, just the reality matter...

In essence, the crab theory refers to the idea that you never need to put a top on a barrel of crabs to prevent escape, because they’re all too busy pulling at each other’s legs and climbing on each other’s backs to think of working together and pushing each other out. It is a mentality that if I cannot have it neither can you!!

This term is broadly associated with short-sighted, non-constructive thinking rather than a unified, long-term, constructive mentality. It is also often used colloquially in reference to individuals or communities attempting to "escape" a so-called "underprivileged life", but kept from doing so by others attempting to ride upon their coat-tails or those who simply resent their success. It first was spread a among the Deaf community but can be applied to any other unprivileged group.

It describes a desperate lust to pull other people down, denigrating them rather than letting them get ahead or pursue their dreams. It is an unwillingness to allow someone to get out of dire or bad life situations, often being foiled by friends and family members who keep sucking them back in. This trait can strike at several levels of life, like in office environments, particularly on promotion. It is a reflection of the famous saying “we all like to see our friends get ahead, but not too far ahead.”

Why when people of the same group see others of their own group succeeding pushing ahead through barriers are they most apt to bring them down through many devious underhanded ways without showing restraint??

A well known joke in Canada goes as follows:

Q. Why don't you need to cover a Canadian Lobster pot?
A. Because the other Lobsters will drag down anyone that tries to climb out.

And isn't that right!! haha.

This is done through vicious gossip (back-stabbing), spreading false rumors (slander), sending hateful e-mails, etc. It’s based on a real-life phenomenon: when crabs are captured and tossed into a bucket, if one crab tries to escape by crawling up the inside of the bucket, the other crabs pull it back down. It’s probably instinctive, a panic response on their part.

So no crabs ever escape. This behavior in crabs is widely held to be a myth, but has been observed. When successful leaders of any background complain about the lack of support and downright hostility they encounter from members of their own communities, that’s the crab theory….

Career Interests and Ability to Socialize

There are many different things that I am passionate about. Therefore I can see myself going through many different careers through out my lifetime. Although I do believe that you must get a degree in one of those interests in order to be recognized by society. I do not think that because I get a degree in one subject area that that is what i will be doing for the rest of my life but I do think it will affect my future decisions. I now I want to create change maybe through policy, advocating, campaigning, teaching, informing but I have not figured out how to link all of those things into one. Or better said what my niche is in that process which suits my interests and personality. I do know that to get ahead in life you must be able to be flexible and get along well with all different types of people. The better you are at this the more successful you will be.

In a society where the majority are whites you must be able to get along well with whites too. Getting along with whites does not make you an Uncle Tom. Some people are so uneducated they think that an educated person who can mix and mingle with members of the majority have somehow lost a sense of their ethnic identity. Unless you are adopting racist views and help racists and prejudiced people perpetuate their views then you are not a sellout. Being able to present your opinions to people who are in positions higher than yourself and getting them approved does not make you more white. It makes you smart because then you can push your ideas forward and get them signed and approved. No one will sign and approve your ideas unless you have a title or highly developed skills.

Hopenhagen Petition: If People Lead,Leaders Will Follow

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DO YOU THINK ITS UNNATURAL TO SUNBATHE IN OCT. TELL THE WORLD LEADERS TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!

Hopenhagen is a campaign run by the UN in order to enforce climate change policies worldwide.

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**Do you know that the US and China account for 40% of the worlds CO2 aiir emissions and air pollution!!!!!!

**Poor countries refuse to sign the the Copenhagen agreement if these two polluters dont take responsibility considering that they are the two major contributors.

**Obama and HU Jintao need to put in some effort!!

******WHY YOU SHOULD CARE?????******

Your taxes are being used to fuel these corporate companies and industries. You want more money in your pockets dontcha???

I assume you dont want to live in a dirty polluted world.

Or wear facemasks to walk down the street because the pollution level gets too high like they do in China.

Or have your kids lead abnormal childhoods because they cant roam happily and free outdoors for fear of contracting disease.

Decreasing air pollution DECREASES ASTHMA LEVELS, CANCER, AND BIRTH DEFORMITIES

************??HOW TO MAKE CHANGE?************

ITS EXTREMELY EASY:

1. go to :::www.Hopenhagen.org/home/map
2. Sign the electronic petition.
3.Just put in ur first name and last name
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The decision will be made 20 days from today. This is the convention that will change climate change policies around the world!!!!!

The faster we get these policies in place the faster we can start cleaning up our dirty nasty atmosphere. There's still hope!!! as long as people show support!!

NEVER STOP SHINING

SHINING

you know what that is?
its not a creepy horror movie or what we usually think of it as..shining is being able to let self discovery and authenticity overcome your fears. When you overcome your fears you have gotten rid of the barriers that society sets up for us as to what we should be like based on appearance, race, and ethnicity.

Have you ever had people think you were dumb and materialistic because you dressed well? They so easily assumed you weren't deep or intellectual??

Have you ever had someone think you were a flirt because you were friendly, and fun?

Have you ever been told you were showing off because you were dancing from the deepest reaches of your heart?

Have you ever worn your hair in a funky way or have that special way of wearing make up or putting together a nice outfit that leaves others in awe?

Have you ever been created an amazing piece of artwork, or writing, sang or played an instrument that reflected your talent, ability, skills?

Have you ever had an all original beautiful idea...and yes my friends IDEAS are priceless, and have everyone guessing how you always come up with these great ideas that have this special personal touch??

or even had a special natural ability to connect your world to the reality of today..a natural longing to know what the human condition is and how economics, the environment, politics, business, and our youth all play into all this
if so ...then you've shined my friend!!
and if you have ever shined you know the pain that comes with it as well..
the pain of having a "close friend" not tell you how brightly you shine because they secretly envy and covet.... while at the same time acting differently towards you

the pain of having someone tell you to lower the intensity about something you are extremely fiery-red passionate about...
(because secretly they wish they had something they could be passionate about, since they cant feel that intensity in their heart, they want you to lower yours so they can relieve their envious ways, and feel safe in their neutral fantasy)

the pain of having someone constantly try to ruin your image by telling you, you're showing off when you are just being funny, yourself purely, and dancing from your heart..
THe brighter you shine the more passionate your haters are when it comes to bringin you down...

HATERS!!! yes I said it! HATERS!

THey wish they could do the things you could do but cant so they hate on you
spread rumors about you, try to ruin your image by making up all sorts of crazy conclusions...(that could only come from their malignant low self esteem let's not forget)
if you can relate then you know what I mean...

I experience full blown HATERation evey mothafucking day!

never stop shining, never lower the intensity or stop "showing off"
because those who ask you to or comment about how you shine wish they could have just a little bit of your shine rub off on them so they can shine like you or at least appear to be shining as bright as you are..

yes APPEAR...because at the end of the day that person or persons are not the real thing they are imitations, phonies, and coveters of something so real and so pure in its originality ..yup ORIGINALITY..

so they want to make you look bad..stupid..not intelligent...crazy...like

you have issues... because there is always that one little star that shines brighter than all the rest... shines with committed intensity!

THese are the things that have been going through my mind and heart this late of night...i had to finally get this "off my chest"haha cuz there are just way to many motherfucking bitch ass haters these days..if you please would be so kind as to excuse my language..haha

I will never downplay my abilities or strengths to make you feel better about yourself, because I have sought the strength within myself to grow and overcome the constructs placed on me by society!

I will never stop S*H*I*N*I*N*G* but thank you very much to all the haters, vocalized, as well as internal haters..

You must always thank your haters for being in the front row seat, and first in line to get a sneak preview of the beautiful work of art, journey, quest that is your life! After all they are your biggest fans**