Givers, Takers, Sharers

THERE are two kinds of people. You have the givers and there are the takers. Regardless of character and personality, you can break the people of the whole world down into these two broad categories.
Among the dynamic persons, there are the dynamic givers who give more than they take. Then there are the dynamic takers who take a whole lot more than they give.You have quiet givers who work like crazy for others. Then there are the quiet takers who quietly take and give a little.There are the talkative givers and the talkative takers. Shy givers and shy takers. People of every stripe, ...

Every one in abusive relationships thinks there’s only two groups of people: Givers and Takers. But there’s a third group. And once you know, understand and ’get’ the third group on a gut level, it all starts to fall into place and your relationships start to work out. The third group is Sharers. Sharers know in their mind, their heart and their soul they deserve to receive as well as give. Sharers know, over the long run, the relationship will balance out to be 50/50 give and take. Sharers have a healthy self respect and they expect their partner to treat them with respect, the same respect they give their partner. When they don’t, a Sharer leaves.
When there are two givers in a relationship, the relationship is poised for success as both partners take the time to give and to nourish each other.

Because there is more blessing in giving than receiving, I implore you to commit to being a giver for the rest of your relationship; aim to become a giver rather than a taker. Just in case you are a taker, wondering where to begin or what to give, here is a short list of inexpensive items that your partner should be sure to enjoy.

1. Foot massage or back rub No cost
2. One hour of listening ear No cost
3. Quality time No cost
4. Three little wishes No cost
5. Stroll in the park No cost
6. Setting the bath No cost
7. Little love notes No cost
8. Helping with house work No cost

Since it is better to give than to receive, no wonder, successful relationships are those where both partners are givers. Show your appreciation this Christmas by getting creative or giving something special. Remember to give according to your budget and the taste of your partner.

When it relates to showing love, analyze if you are a giver or taker. In love a giver will do what it takes to make the other person happy and not look out for their own interest. A giver will hold the door open for you, buy you dinner and go the extra mile without expecting anything in return. A giver will not steal, cheat or lie. A taker will seek out ways to make themselves happy, never be satisfied with what you do and drain you as they seek more and more from the relationship. A taker will steal, cheat and lie.
When it relates to friendship, are you a giver or taker?


In friendships a giver will take the time and get to know your likes and dislikes and be sure to try and please you. A giver will buy you gifts, help when necessary (even without asking), share and just be there for you. A taker will look for ways that you differ, continuously pick out your flaws and always have an excuse why they couldn't be there for you. A giver will give their last and a taker will take your last.

When it relates to work (secular), are you are a giver or taker?. At work, a giver will go above and beyond to make sure the corporation or business is successful. Even when the boss is not looking, they will complete their work and be courteous to the customers. A taker will feel like the company owes them something despite their work performance. A taker will leave early, take longer lunches and work with an attitude.