Crazy NYC train fight!

So recently this video came out for the Holidays about a fight on the 6 train.

You can watch it here. Be careful in these New York City Trains.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJfRb2oBhFo

Shame on the people in the car, shame on MTA and the conductor who clearly saw the woman fall to the ground and hit the side of the train, yet continued to leave the station without calling for assistance. Ambulance, police, fire dept, somebody. MADNESS, PURE MADNESS!!!

Givers, Takers, Sharers

THERE are two kinds of people. You have the givers and there are the takers. Regardless of character and personality, you can break the people of the whole world down into these two broad categories.
Among the dynamic persons, there are the dynamic givers who give more than they take. Then there are the dynamic takers who take a whole lot more than they give.You have quiet givers who work like crazy for others. Then there are the quiet takers who quietly take and give a little.There are the talkative givers and the talkative takers. Shy givers and shy takers. People of every stripe, ...

Every one in abusive relationships thinks there’s only two groups of people: Givers and Takers. But there’s a third group. And once you know, understand and ’get’ the third group on a gut level, it all starts to fall into place and your relationships start to work out. The third group is Sharers. Sharers know in their mind, their heart and their soul they deserve to receive as well as give. Sharers know, over the long run, the relationship will balance out to be 50/50 give and take. Sharers have a healthy self respect and they expect their partner to treat them with respect, the same respect they give their partner. When they don’t, a Sharer leaves.
When there are two givers in a relationship, the relationship is poised for success as both partners take the time to give and to nourish each other.

Because there is more blessing in giving than receiving, I implore you to commit to being a giver for the rest of your relationship; aim to become a giver rather than a taker. Just in case you are a taker, wondering where to begin or what to give, here is a short list of inexpensive items that your partner should be sure to enjoy.

1. Foot massage or back rub No cost
2. One hour of listening ear No cost
3. Quality time No cost
4. Three little wishes No cost
5. Stroll in the park No cost
6. Setting the bath No cost
7. Little love notes No cost
8. Helping with house work No cost

Since it is better to give than to receive, no wonder, successful relationships are those where both partners are givers. Show your appreciation this Christmas by getting creative or giving something special. Remember to give according to your budget and the taste of your partner.

When it relates to showing love, analyze if you are a giver or taker. In love a giver will do what it takes to make the other person happy and not look out for their own interest. A giver will hold the door open for you, buy you dinner and go the extra mile without expecting anything in return. A giver will not steal, cheat or lie. A taker will seek out ways to make themselves happy, never be satisfied with what you do and drain you as they seek more and more from the relationship. A taker will steal, cheat and lie.
When it relates to friendship, are you a giver or taker?


In friendships a giver will take the time and get to know your likes and dislikes and be sure to try and please you. A giver will buy you gifts, help when necessary (even without asking), share and just be there for you. A taker will look for ways that you differ, continuously pick out your flaws and always have an excuse why they couldn't be there for you. A giver will give their last and a taker will take your last.

When it relates to work (secular), are you are a giver or taker?. At work, a giver will go above and beyond to make sure the corporation or business is successful. Even when the boss is not looking, they will complete their work and be courteous to the customers. A taker will feel like the company owes them something despite their work performance. A taker will leave early, take longer lunches and work with an attitude.

Bitch

Here is something that I have noticed in the last few positions I have held, in regards to women in positions of power, and that is this: that a woman, when the 'boss', is expected to make the time, and take the effort to foster deep interpersonal relationships with her staff, and if she does not actively do this, she is percieved as a bitch, and her employees will actively try to undermine her authority because of it. However, the whole dynamic changes when the 'boss' is a man: then, employees are the ones making the effort to create a relationship with him, and do not expect him to be making that same effort towards them. Instead, they make a concerted effort to make him notice them, and to win his favour.

I think that society looks and behaves differently toward men and women who hold power. When men make mistakes, they make mistakes, and when women make them, they get fired. And, I think that women are our own worst enemies when it comes to dealing with other women in power. Women undermine other women all the time, when it comes to workplace interaction. I listen, sometimes, to how women talk about other women, and I am apalled. We don't cheer each other on, but instead we run around behind each other's backs, picking away on whatever we can to cut that woman down...*to cut her back down to our own level*. And all it takes for that kind of behaviour to start is for a woman to be the boss, and not be absolutely perfect, every single day.
And I think that that sort of behaviour makes women who do wield power a little leery, because one false step and the next thing you know, everyone is commenting on the size of your ass and the cut of your hair, and feeling like they have the right to bring you down, and to judge you on anything they perceive as a flaw, even if it has nothing to do with the arena of professional life.

LOVE quota

Love. In life there are quotas for everything. For every person we meet there is a quota of love that we can give to that person. Every person we meet is initially allotted a different amount of love. Not by us but by fate.  Once that person uses up their quota there is no more that can be given. Even if you wanted to continue loving that person, as you used to, you just can not. I have experienced this, you have experienced it, and so has the rest of the world.  Because the source of love has dried out. You have already given up all that could have been given. People live their lives unconscious to this rule of life and feel that love from a single source will forever abound.

There are only so many times you are willing to risk for one person, stand up for one person, hope, trust, expect, understand, sympathize until there's no more to give. Its an unconscious effortless act of humanity which once extracted from the fountain from which it was derived is gone forever. Sometimes it just runs out. There is only so much abuse, neglect, criticism, lies, deception, a person can take before they decide that it is time to conclude that chapter. And when you close that chapter don't feel bad. .

There are those that allow people back in their life that do not deserve it. Sometimes people come into your life to teach you a lesson or to serve you company during that portion of your life. This does not mean that if they did not treat you the way you wanted to be treated or if they are  not what you are looking for in a partner anymore that you should allow them back in. Cut the ties. Cut the umbilical cord.

If it did not work out the first, second, or third time what are the chances that it will work out again? Unless you are willing to go to therapy or make a life decision to both change together ITS NOT!!!!. People don't change deep down inside unless something life altering happens to them. DON'T be fooled by the facade of change or fake promises. Eventually the veracity of their character will be revealed directly or by underhanded ways. If you continue to allow someone back into your life after they screwed you over literally and figuratively they will view you as easily replaceable. They lose respect for you and see you as a quick fix. Since they already know you and what you are all about they know how to best manipulate you and tell you what you want to hear and keep you wrapped in their web of lies. In life it pays to be strong and have the ability to walk away. Never look back.

In order to succeed in life and be HAPPY you MUST eliminate poisonous manipulative people.  Don't worry about their feelings because they usually never stop to think about yours until it hits them that its OFICIALLY over. Funny thing is that these abusers do not realize until its too late, and many times (not all) they come back in different ways ( text, email, call, etc.). The reason they return is because you brought more goodness into their life than they did to you, and they like that imbalance. They want to maintain that in order to feel control. They want to return in order to leach off of all the good qualities you have and when they take what they want they WILL leave again. They know exactly what they are doing. They know you have things they do not. These people are not stupid. Remember they belong to the category of takers not giver and want to return because they benefit from you but never stop to think that the relationship is in no way, shape, or form beneficial to you. Do not allow imbalance of LOVE and APPRECIATION in your life.

When these abusers return don' t be angry, or sad, be happy and even PROUD that this person cannot find anything better than you. OBVIOUSLY NO one can provide what you can, in the way you can, so therefore they come back to see how much they can continue to leach off of you. Cut these energy vampires with their insecurities, lack of motivation, lack of follow through, lack of character, and whatever else they lack OUT OF YOUR LIFE. Only allow people who bring good things to your life not the worthless who suck all your positive energy. Now that you are wiser use this as an opportunity to reflect is this really what you want?? Funny thing is many times they blame things on you, and do not take responsibility for their actions and later out of the blue when you have moved on and no longer even think about them they return. For more. BEWARE OF THESE LEACHES.

Jealousy

“In my opinion jealousy is a side-effect of a mindset that’s rooted in scarcity. Jealousy is the emotion resulting from the notion that another person’s success or happiness somehow diminishes your own. If you look at the world from the lens of abundance instead of scarcity, it’s very difficult to become jealous.”- Steve Pavlina.

Another person's success does not mark your own lack of success. Another person's success is merely an indicator of what life has in store for them. Every one has their own path but not everyone has the right to denigrate anothers'.  Every person has the ability to change their life around by coming to terms with their soul, their heart, their needs and wants and CHANGING. We all have the ability to change but some do not have the motivation of others. Your own lack of motivation does not give you the right to demean another's well of motivation.

“The thermometer of success is merely the jealousy of the malcontents.”
Salvador Dali

"The above quote by Salvador Dali really captures what jealousy is all about. People sometimes look at successful people and become jealous of their success. Jealousy obfuscates the mind, in turn hindering our ability to think clearly and reasonably. Thinking is one of the special gifts that makes us human. When jealousy kicks in, we lose that thinking quality. We thus become less human. No wonder jealousy is referred to as the green-eyed monster."

In this case successful people meaning people who are taking steps towards their dreams. People who are actively working hard, and actively putting in the effort to get where they want to get. Success does not readily mark corporate success, success in my opinion is living your ideal or working hard towards you ideal and being happy knowing that your only one step closer, OR as close as you're going to get. The ideal is a notion that can change as one receives new information during the course of life therefore the ideal is never realized but one can always improve one's situation, life, relationships as the new definition of ideal is improved. In my opinion, SUCCESS= conscious improvement, hard work, natural talents/skills, passion, connections, and risk taking. All depend on what you want to achieve of course. I BELIEVE that in life one can achieve and obtain anything one wants as long as one is willing to put in the hard work and effort to build upon natural/ or learned talents/skills. The sky is the limit.  I live my life by that mentality. Always have. It's been difficult at times but I have always been able to rise even when I have fallen through the deepest emotional canyons. For this reason one should never let others unconscious jealousy and tattered ego's become roadblocks.

If you want something bad enough then you can do it.

Rules

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anwyay. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness. people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may be never enough. Give your best anyway. For you, in the end, it is between you and yourself. It never was between you and them anyway.

Crab Theory

Interested in studying the Crab Theory: To move up, do u necessarily need to bring other people down?

Is it a minority thing that we cannot see others succeed, or come up to the same level we have reached? How does jealousy, selfishness and goals to achieve within an under priviledged group of people affect or has effect in this theory? umh...Something I've been meaning to understand for a while, but there's not too much to it, just the reality matter...

In essence, the crab theory refers to the idea that you never need to put a top on a barrel of crabs to prevent escape, because they’re all too busy pulling at each other’s legs and climbing on each other’s backs to think of working together and pushing each other out. It is a mentality that if I cannot have it neither can you!!

This term is broadly associated with short-sighted, non-constructive thinking rather than a unified, long-term, constructive mentality. It is also often used colloquially in reference to individuals or communities attempting to "escape" a so-called "underprivileged life", but kept from doing so by others attempting to ride upon their coat-tails or those who simply resent their success. It first was spread a among the Deaf community but can be applied to any other unprivileged group.

It describes a desperate lust to pull other people down, denigrating them rather than letting them get ahead or pursue their dreams. It is an unwillingness to allow someone to get out of dire or bad life situations, often being foiled by friends and family members who keep sucking them back in. This trait can strike at several levels of life, like in office environments, particularly on promotion. It is a reflection of the famous saying “we all like to see our friends get ahead, but not too far ahead.”

Why when people of the same group see others of their own group succeeding pushing ahead through barriers are they most apt to bring them down through many devious underhanded ways without showing restraint??

A well known joke in Canada goes as follows:

Q. Why don't you need to cover a Canadian Lobster pot?
A. Because the other Lobsters will drag down anyone that tries to climb out.

And isn't that right!! haha.

This is done through vicious gossip (back-stabbing), spreading false rumors (slander), sending hateful e-mails, etc. It’s based on a real-life phenomenon: when crabs are captured and tossed into a bucket, if one crab tries to escape by crawling up the inside of the bucket, the other crabs pull it back down. It’s probably instinctive, a panic response on their part.

So no crabs ever escape. This behavior in crabs is widely held to be a myth, but has been observed. When successful leaders of any background complain about the lack of support and downright hostility they encounter from members of their own communities, that’s the crab theory….

Career Interests and Ability to Socialize

There are many different things that I am passionate about. Therefore I can see myself going through many different careers through out my lifetime. Although I do believe that you must get a degree in one of those interests in order to be recognized by society. I do not think that because I get a degree in one subject area that that is what i will be doing for the rest of my life but I do think it will affect my future decisions. I now I want to create change maybe through policy, advocating, campaigning, teaching, informing but I have not figured out how to link all of those things into one. Or better said what my niche is in that process which suits my interests and personality. I do know that to get ahead in life you must be able to be flexible and get along well with all different types of people. The better you are at this the more successful you will be.

In a society where the majority are whites you must be able to get along well with whites too. Getting along with whites does not make you an Uncle Tom. Some people are so uneducated they think that an educated person who can mix and mingle with members of the majority have somehow lost a sense of their ethnic identity. Unless you are adopting racist views and help racists and prejudiced people perpetuate their views then you are not a sellout. Being able to present your opinions to people who are in positions higher than yourself and getting them approved does not make you more white. It makes you smart because then you can push your ideas forward and get them signed and approved. No one will sign and approve your ideas unless you have a title or highly developed skills.

Hopenhagen Petition: If People Lead,Leaders Will Follow

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DO YOU THINK ITS UNNATURAL TO SUNBATHE IN OCT. TELL THE WORLD LEADERS TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!

Hopenhagen is a campaign run by the UN in order to enforce climate change policies worldwide.

CHECK OUT THIS VIDEO:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMpqRCHr5s0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=COIeumLZOgI&NR=1

**Do you know that the US and China account for 40% of the worlds CO2 aiir emissions and air pollution!!!!!!

**Poor countries refuse to sign the the Copenhagen agreement if these two polluters dont take responsibility considering that they are the two major contributors.

**Obama and HU Jintao need to put in some effort!!

******WHY YOU SHOULD CARE?????******

Your taxes are being used to fuel these corporate companies and industries. You want more money in your pockets dontcha???

I assume you dont want to live in a dirty polluted world.

Or wear facemasks to walk down the street because the pollution level gets too high like they do in China.

Or have your kids lead abnormal childhoods because they cant roam happily and free outdoors for fear of contracting disease.

Decreasing air pollution DECREASES ASTHMA LEVELS, CANCER, AND BIRTH DEFORMITIES

************??HOW TO MAKE CHANGE?************

ITS EXTREMELY EASY:

1. go to :::www.Hopenhagen.org/home/map
2. Sign the electronic petition.
3.Just put in ur first name and last name
4. The end you have just completed the petition.

The decision will be made 20 days from today. This is the convention that will change climate change policies around the world!!!!!

The faster we get these policies in place the faster we can start cleaning up our dirty nasty atmosphere. There's still hope!!! as long as people show support!!

NEVER STOP SHINING

SHINING

you know what that is?
its not a creepy horror movie or what we usually think of it as..shining is being able to let self discovery and authenticity overcome your fears. When you overcome your fears you have gotten rid of the barriers that society sets up for us as to what we should be like based on appearance, race, and ethnicity.

Have you ever had people think you were dumb and materialistic because you dressed well? They so easily assumed you weren't deep or intellectual??

Have you ever had someone think you were a flirt because you were friendly, and fun?

Have you ever been told you were showing off because you were dancing from the deepest reaches of your heart?

Have you ever worn your hair in a funky way or have that special way of wearing make up or putting together a nice outfit that leaves others in awe?

Have you ever been created an amazing piece of artwork, or writing, sang or played an instrument that reflected your talent, ability, skills?

Have you ever had an all original beautiful idea...and yes my friends IDEAS are priceless, and have everyone guessing how you always come up with these great ideas that have this special personal touch??

or even had a special natural ability to connect your world to the reality of today..a natural longing to know what the human condition is and how economics, the environment, politics, business, and our youth all play into all this
if so ...then you've shined my friend!!
and if you have ever shined you know the pain that comes with it as well..
the pain of having a "close friend" not tell you how brightly you shine because they secretly envy and covet.... while at the same time acting differently towards you

the pain of having someone tell you to lower the intensity about something you are extremely fiery-red passionate about...
(because secretly they wish they had something they could be passionate about, since they cant feel that intensity in their heart, they want you to lower yours so they can relieve their envious ways, and feel safe in their neutral fantasy)

the pain of having someone constantly try to ruin your image by telling you, you're showing off when you are just being funny, yourself purely, and dancing from your heart..
THe brighter you shine the more passionate your haters are when it comes to bringin you down...

HATERS!!! yes I said it! HATERS!

THey wish they could do the things you could do but cant so they hate on you
spread rumors about you, try to ruin your image by making up all sorts of crazy conclusions...(that could only come from their malignant low self esteem let's not forget)
if you can relate then you know what I mean...

I experience full blown HATERation evey mothafucking day!

never stop shining, never lower the intensity or stop "showing off"
because those who ask you to or comment about how you shine wish they could have just a little bit of your shine rub off on them so they can shine like you or at least appear to be shining as bright as you are..

yes APPEAR...because at the end of the day that person or persons are not the real thing they are imitations, phonies, and coveters of something so real and so pure in its originality ..yup ORIGINALITY..

so they want to make you look bad..stupid..not intelligent...crazy...like

you have issues... because there is always that one little star that shines brighter than all the rest... shines with committed intensity!

THese are the things that have been going through my mind and heart this late of night...i had to finally get this "off my chest"haha cuz there are just way to many motherfucking bitch ass haters these days..if you please would be so kind as to excuse my language..haha

I will never downplay my abilities or strengths to make you feel better about yourself, because I have sought the strength within myself to grow and overcome the constructs placed on me by society!

I will never stop S*H*I*N*I*N*G* but thank you very much to all the haters, vocalized, as well as internal haters..

You must always thank your haters for being in the front row seat, and first in line to get a sneak preview of the beautiful work of art, journey, quest that is your life! After all they are your biggest fans**

You never know whats inside someone's HEART

Sometimes in life when you first meet someone they come across as nothing special, easily overlooked. They are the person who is too scared to pursue their goals, too scared to take a risk, to scared to try something new. They are the shy reserved ones or the ones who are scared to take a new approach that challenges the status quo. Being compassionate you befriend them. You kind of feel pity for them because they themselves do not see their full potential. Many times they are not aware of all the beautiful things they can unleash if they just change their way of thinking and take small risks. Scared of, or being ignorant to their FULL potential. They seem harmless and genuine, just needing a small little push. Needing someone to believe in them. Someone to believe that Yes they can change.

Seemingly harmless and genuine you do not feel threatened in any way by these people and do not mind opening them up to new experiences and ways of thinking. Slowly they begin to blossom. Slowly coming out of their shells and developing their own interests and ideas. They begin to be the person they have always dreamed of. They begin to unleash the potential that was lurking within the inner reaches of their heart. With this new found confidence and ability they pursue life vigorously. Soon you start to realize that this person seems different. Yes they are actively pursuing their dreams and being the person they always knew they were. But something seems very different. No longer does this person regard you in the same way they did before. It seems as if they willingly treat you differently, refer to you differently. You can not quite understand what is going on. Your strengths are perceived as weaknesses and the personal qualities that brought this person to want to be closer to you are now chastised. You can not quite figure out this behavior until it suddenly hits you that this person is competing with you. For attention, for status, for popularity. Now that they have obtained a little bit of that shine that attracted them to you they feel superior to you. That they can achieve more, that they are better than you. They criticize you, make your strengths seem like weaknesses, and look down upon you. They become fake generic friends.

SO easily they forget that that it was you whom INSPIRED them.
It was you who gave them that little push.
It was you who saw the potential in them no one else would have thought existed.
It was you who believed in them.
It was you who challenged them to challenge themselves.
They forget that if they shine it is because you taught them how.

A person may appear to be a certain way but deep down may harbor completely different desires than what meets the eye. Nothing ever is what is seems to be. In life you never know what is inside someones heart.

Soooo......have you ever thought about how others see YOU?

Many times you are striving really hard towards a goal, or to stay in sync with your values. DO you ever stop to think how others view you? Sometimes I wonder about that, how do others view me. Most people are experts at looking at OTHERS and judging. Are you as much of an expert at introspecting and coming to terms with truths about yourself that you might not like?

Sometimes your strengths might be viewed by others as weaknesses or character defects.

1. You find myself being sure of what I want or sure of what I know and others might view me as a KNOW IT ALL.
2. You might be sharing my happiness with someone about something you have triumphed or achieved and others might view that as BOASTING.
3. You might be dancing with your heart and spirit not giving a fuck about what someone else might think and others view that as SHOWING OFF.
4. You find yourself not getting all worked up about situations or conflict and others might view that as INDIFFERENCE...not caring.
   
5. You may come across as withdrawn, serious, quiet, not showing feelings. Others might think your COLD or even ARROGANT.
   
6. Maybe you like to look good as often as possible. You might be labeled SUPERFICIAL/materialistic.
7. You may feel confident, sure of yourself, independent, and decisive others might view that as ARROGANCE.
8. What others view as INDECISION. You might view as simply waiting to get the absolute best deal or option.

But do they see things how you see them. Or even try? You may think you are getting your point across but are others really seeing what is inside your heart? How many times are our actions and words misconstrued? Your real intentions transformed into fierce sources of negativity and hate?

Frankly at the end of the day you just have to be sure of what you want and what your goal is. Seek those things which you know will get you what you want. People usually only see what they want to see. Its scary to think that you are giving 100% of your best and others may only see 20%. You cannot allow this to bring you down. Stay on your path and do not allow yourself to be distracted. The road to success, enlightenment, and spirituality are usually lain with roadblocks. Others negative or misconstrued perceptions should not be a source of destruction of YOU. Do not let the essence of you be Corroded by hate.

You cannot please everyone. You cannot allow others to determine your path, or actions. Do what fills you with joy. You read that correctly???.......JOY....... If your actions, thoughts, words, opinions are not affecting anyone's life in a negative way..their comments or views are NOT important. There's so much goodness in the world, so many beautiful possibilities. Others might misc0ntrue the beautiful possibilities you bring to the world. Its your job to not allow those possibilities to be destroyed or overlooked.

Sometimes I wonder how others view me, depending on the situation you might see me as ditzy, arrogant, cold, Happy!, quiet, show-off, withdrawn, friendly, studious, Slacker, creative, logical......I just hope that the goodness that lies within my heart shines through. A fire that never dies. Never simmers. I hope others can see my strengths as shining rays of warm light and not as weaknesses or sources of hate. I cannot please everyone and was not put on this earth to please you!! I will never stop shining. Maybe you might think I do not shine lol. But I KNOW I do. I just hope that the REAL me is acknowledged in a positive way.

Signing off...

The Milky Way

Female Friendships: Survival of the Fittest in the 21st century

The dynamic between female relations is twisted. I am a female but I feel that there are codes of conduct that are socially accepted among females that I never learned. Maybe it has nothing to do with gender but with basic human instinct. The betrayal comes when the trust sets in. It is said that " el mas amigo es el que mas traiciona", which means that the person who is your greatest friend is the one who has the highest chance of betraying you ruthlessly. Thats because this great friend is the person you confide in, that person which knows your deep feelings, stance on issues, and secrets. This person knows exactly what to do to destroy you and if given the chance in the correct situation they might just do that if it will help them obtain the social status they covet. Whether they do it out of spite or simple survival of the fittest the possibility exists. This is not to say that this knowledge is applicable solely to female relationships but men do not build up tension the way females do. Females compete in a very different way than men do, its extremely INDIRECT.

Im a late bloomer. It took me a long time to finally figure out what most girsl were aware of back in HS or even Middle School. I have always done my own thing. Having the ability to be independent and self sufficient holds more worth and weight than codependency. I always viewed female relationships as faulty because men attack each other directly whereas female competition is very indirect. I caught a glimpse of this indirect female competition in Junior highschool and made the unconcious choice to stay away from it. Therefore I was never truly faced with it until mid highschool and was never able to recognize it for what it was female competition. Anyone who "competed" with me I would automatically label as a chickenhead and move right on with my life. I thought it was just a faze and that as soon as I headed to college I would never have to deal with it because people in college were more focused, mature, and knowledgeable. Little did I know that this competition is merely a simple fact of life. I guess these chickenheads take on new personalities, and forms of social interaction but at the core of their existence is the insecure, backbiting, chickenhead they truly are. Some things never change.

Female competition takes on a new form. It deals with things that are more superficial and in extreme cases it can be very deep and psychologically driven. It can be explained very scientifically with Darwins law of evolution about survival of the fittest. The fittest individual has the higher possibility of attracting the best mate, reproducing, and passing on their genes. A large percentage of the population fails to remember that we are animals first, humans second. We are driven by our survivalistic genetic composition. If in order to survive an individual feels the need to compete, deceive, and belittle another they will do just that because we are animals first and humans second. For example why do females wear make up....they do so to be more attractive and to stand out amongst the other females in order to attract the best mate and therefore survive. Wearing make up raises certain females self esteem, and makes them feel pretty, confidenct, and juvenile. All of these being traits that men find irresistibly attractive. Why might a female hate on another female for doing just that....it might be because that female feels overlooked, not as confident, low self esteem and therefore belittles and criticizes a female who has personality, or physical characteristics which she covets. Herein begins the competition. It might seem a simplistic explanation but at the human core are survivalistic instincts. Why is a female who gets alot of attention from the opposite sex feared by other females...because she has higher chances of surviving and obtaining a mate or social status. She might feel that the attractive females has one-up'd her and has greater chances of success in different areas of life. If a female fears that this female has a higher chance of obtaining male attention or the attention of a specific male she is interested in the competition begins. The same can be said of a female who has recently obtained a fine job or is very successful in her career. The logic can be applied to popularity, grades, internships, and societal approval.

The threat lies in that female competition is so indirect that much of these thought patterns are never spoken but are exposed in indirect forms. The best friend or acquaintance who is constantly criticizing you for the natural gifts which you are blessed with whether it is your shining personality, independent character, go-getter attitude, your quiet disposition, your ability to dance well, good grades, your amazing wardrobe, etc. The criticism is delivered in such a way as to seem harmless but after the fact one can not help but feel attacked. If confronted the competitor will always try to dilute the statemenent by demean it harmless, a joke, or by making themselves the victim. It can manifest itself in the form of the hypocritical friend who acts decent to your face but destroys you when you are not around by indirectly distorting the truth about your character to others. Due to the fact that this person is or was your friend there is a higher chance that other will believe the allegations made towards you and seldom question. Therefore your competitive friend can be destroying your chances of succeeding socially without you even knowing. Female competition can be detected in the indirectly looks one individual gives another when you are in their presence aka the evil eye. Or it might even take the form of excluding you from events or meeting people which the competitor feels you would win over. Another example is demeaning your intelligence and leading others to think you are stupid by distorting your comments or interpreting your actions in a malicious way. An extreme example is that of the mother who secretly envies her daughter's looks, or personal relationships. It can be of the mother who envies her daughters relationship with the father if the mother was not able to obtain a healthy relationship with the man whom they are both connected to. The mother feels that the daughter has gained an advantage, a higher status and therefore conveys this message in indirect ways. These might manifest themselves in the form of constant criticism, arguing, or even emotional distancing. These are some examples but they all lead to the same conclusion.

Whenever you are shining at your all time best there will always be someone who will want to bring you down. For some reason this behavior is acceptable amongst females. It is encouraged by the belief that being blunt is equivalent to being a bitch. It is encouraged by stupid societally accepted and enforced behaviors of conduct which imply that it is better to tell a white lie than the truth. It is not ladylike to be blunt, it is not ladylike to confront. This might not apply to all females but to any female who has had to deal with this dynamic among their female relationships these examples dont stray too far from the truth. It is usually the person you least expect who unveils malicious intentions. You never know anothers agenda but remember that top priority in everyones agenda is to survive. Survival of the fittest internally drives us all.

The power of Intuition

Intuition is a gut feeling. It is a random thought. It is a subconscious perception of the truth. It is your inner guide. It is the voice of god or whatever other deity you worship or believe in. Sometimes your intuition presents to you negative thoughts. Don't be fooled this is not you being a negative person or thinking the worst of a situation this is the truth of the matter. Not all intuitive thoughts will be positive.

Have you ever gotten a negative feeling before meeting up with someone, or during and encounter with someone?

This is your intuition speaking. These random seemingly unrelated thoughts are the keys to your destiny. You can use your intuition to change the outcome of situations. If you allow yourself to listen to it. If your gut feeling is telling you one thing but everyone else is telling you something else...listen to yourself first. There have been many times when I should have listened to my intuition. I used to think that negative thoughts could not be delivered by intuition but they can. If you get a random negative thought let it sink in a little it could be your insecurities churning or an intuitive message. Not all intuitive messages will be happy and positive. A person is no lesser a positive individual because they listen to warnings of a negative outcome. If anything you can use this warning to avoid the negative outcome and manipulate it towards a more positive ending. This should be the goal.

More to come!

Dominican Self Hate

Not only does self hate loom in the African American culture in the US it also predominates in the Dominican Republic. The Dominican Republic was inhabited by Christopher Columbus who brought with him many African slaves there to cultivate cotton, sugar cane and other natural goods. Unlike African Americans though the Dominican population was so heavily influenced by Spanish Imperialism in the Island of Hispaniola that most Dominican even charcoal black Dominicans today do not claim themselves as black. Imperialistic colonizers sought to convert the Taino populations of the DR as well as the African population into Christianity. Much of the culture was mixed therefore Dominicans today come in all different shades of Brown.

Dominican girls Luz Freiney Paulina, from left, Esther Celeste Santana, Mayelin Eloisa Valdez and Melisa Valdez, comprise the dance troupe Las Nizas. Below, Dominican author Manuel Nunez writes about the issues of 'black' and 'Dominican' as they relate to the history in his country. (Candace Barbot/Miami Herald)

Deeply rooted into the Dominican psyche was the concept of White is good Black is bad. Even though the White colonizers from Spain where the ones to destroy the original Taino tribal culture that existed there: enslaved them, tore families apart, and raped their women. When the Taino people could do no more shipped in ship loads of Africans to increase man labor and harvest crops. The Dominican population does not identify with Blackness. The Dominican population perceives Darker skin and other physically predominant Black features as bad, ugly, and lower class. About 90% of the Dominican population today has African ancestry. The DR is the only country in the entire world whose populations is mostly descendant from Africa yet fails to acknowledge its blackness.

Sensitive Nature of Black Self Definition in the DR. Society is Integrated but far from Color Blind.

So deeply brainwashed is the pop. of the DR that it is known for its predominant and flourishing hair salon businesses. Much like the African American women in the US Dominican women would do anything than to be caught dead wearing their natural "nappy hair."

Yara Matos holds her hair extensions as a stylist in the Herrera neighborhood prepares to give her the look of long, straight hair. (Candace Barbot/Miami Herald) http://www.miamiherald.com/multimedia/news/afrolatin/part2/index.html

Mariana Ramirez smiles as she sits in Daisy Gran Salon in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic. (Candace Barbot/Miami Herald)

It is normal for a Dominican females to relax their hair as early as 5 years old. This is a life long process that many do not grow out of. Even women who have "good" hair due to their prominent European descendancy relax their hair without needing to. The research and funding that goes into Dominican hair products (for black hair) is very extensive. Dominican hairstylists are even gaining wide popularity in the United States for being able to maintain healthy hair that ranges from slightly wavy to very coarse due to the many differences in backgrounds.

There is nothing wrong with maintaining healthy hair but many of the treatments that are recommended encourage damaging your hair's natural state. Dominican hairstylists are experts on converting natural curly and coarse hair into very straight sleek and shiny. There is nothing wrong with that once in a while but when will be the day when the DR accepts that it is fine to let your hair out. Instead of encouraging shiny sleek hair when will it be okay to encourage wearing your hair's natural curly state. When will it be okay in the Dominican Republic to encourage afro's, and cornrows. When will others stop looking down upon moreno's for their kinks or curly hair?

When will it be okay in the Dominican Republic to be BLACK? It has been so ingrained in Dominican culture that blackness is bad that many go as far as selecting a mate that does not have prominent black features. Those who have big noses, big lips, coarser hair, even less income. Those of prominent African roots are treated differently, even badly by the rest of the Dominican population and usually are in the lower part of the socioeconomic spectrum. This including racial slurs, and demeaning comments. Many dark Dominicans being excluded for the rest of their lives.

What will it take for this behavior and way of thinking to be transformed into one of greater acceptance? Why haven't black Dominicans in the DR revolted or spoke up for themselves? The only way to stop this is for darker skinned Dominicans to stand up for themselves as a whole, not try to assimilate themselves with the rest of the trigueno population. To let their voice be heard either through music, activism, or politics. They have to be forceful and confident. After so many years of Independence the DR still has a long way to go. A revolution must occur in the DR, but only if the morenos have the courage to stand up for themselves carve their path and encourage acceptance of their African Roots.

The Miami Herald has done a 5 part series on The Voice of Afro-Americans: Covering The D.R., Cuba, Nicaragua, and Brazil.  Here's for more information on the Dominican Black Denial.


See also:
Colourism

Dominican Hair Products

Are  Dominican Blowouts Healthy?

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African American Community and Self Hate

I am a strong believer that the black community as well as other Afro-descendants are in serious need of psychological help. Any community inhabited by minorities should have its fair share of Psychologists, mentors, counselors. Unfortunately they don't. Slavery occurred and black people never received a sorry. Even the families and victims of the Holocaust received a sorry, but African American and other African descendants have will probably never share this luck. The psyche of the black community is fucked up to say the least. Loads of low self-esteem and self hate. Many of the violence, criminal acts, incarcerations, baby mama syndrome, narcotic transportation, are a result of this self hatred and segregation from the more "elite" race. Through the creation of ghettos, lack of funding, lack of psychological help, and motivation, slavery(this one is pretty OBVIOUS), the black community has fallen into a very deep whole and trying to dig themselves out of it. Lets stop the cycle of Ignorance and Enter a place of acceptance.

1. Black Women and Self Hate: Natural Hair/Weaves: This is a video about black women and self hate from a Black man to Black women. It definitely summarizes key issues of black women and insecurities. I thought it was on point and it was created by a young black dude. The gentleman who posted these videos is very insightful, well-spoken, intelligent, yet blunt!
2. Distinction between Biracial and Mixed African American: In Africa, before imperialism black people already came in different complexions not everyone was jet black due to the differences in geographical features in Africa. Not everyone was black blue!
3. White men are strong but Black men are stronger: The untapped strength of the black community.
4. BLACK WOMAN, Explain Why You Have So Many Babies OUT OF WEDLOCK:More Black women need to educate themselves and stop cycle of having babies out of wedlock. Education will set you free. Truth will set you free. Once the level of EDUCATED black females increases substantially, black men will have to get their shit together and see black women as more alluring.
5. Relationships between black men and black women:This part 1 of 3 part series check it out!
   

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Commentary on 2 girls 1 cup

This has nothing to do with what my blog is supposed to be about or what my purpose is with this blog at all. Its a commentary on this really weird disgusting video. I wish I could censor this so that younger kids who come across this never read it, this is for adults. I never watched it and refuse to, my imagination is vivid enough that I can picture it in my head as if I were right there standing in front of them and experiencing it live. I also never want those images to stick in my head. I never want my brain to capture that shit and store it in some small little cell somewhere among my neurons forever. There are crazy people in this world who have very vivid imaginations, strange fetishes, and who are in serious need of psychological help. Crazier than the filmmaker who came up with this and is willing to film it and mass distribute this type of content worldwide are the actors involved. PORNSTARS. Just because you watch someone jumping off a bridge does not mean you have to follow in their footsteps. What ever happened to normal porn. Anyways, I really do think that there is a difference between artistic license and insanity. These videos are for pure shock value but isnt talking or even reading something horrifyingly nasty enough. Putting it on video for all to see with real people. Its so animalistic, I dont think even cavemen did that shit! Only animals do that shit and even then its only for nutritional value not for sexual pleasure. Soooooooo fucking weeiird::::DEMENTIA::: I know Im madd late with this. It came out like last spring but not until now did I care to find out about it. And the females featured in that video... how come they are not sent to psychiatrists they need medicine. What could even lead a female to do that...extreme low self esteem and self worth...or MONEY. I hate money. THe things people do for money...its like one of the last entries I wrote.. everything revolves around money...so sad..so animalistic...so insane...demented...not even tribal people who exist today do that...so primal..Just goes to show that humans no matter how intelligent or educated we may seem.. no matter the bureaucracy's, governments, constitutions and all that other good shit..we're all just a bunch of ANIMALS trying to survive on a whole nother ballgame....we're all just animals.....so sad....Im so saddened by this...the media, film, art should be a tool to enlighten, educate, give hope, instill........so sad...that type of media should be banned...THis is my reaction and I have never even seen the video now imagine if I did see it.. so demented....................

Crazy People On The Train Pt. 2

Every month I run into a crazy person on NYC trains. This was not a pomegranate seed eatin' bum. Oh no! this guy was a Lord of the Rings Smiegel like character who was past due for his exorcism appointment at the local church. He was obviously possessed by something. His voice was raspy and deep and scary just like a demon. He went on preaching about the death in Palestine and continued to repeat, "You cant see them, they can see you, they are inside of you, they are a part of you." (I think he was referring to demons.) In that deep, raspy, demon-like voice as he pointed into the abyss and grew louder and louder with passionate demonic anger. His body stiff, as a board, unwavering by the winding and motions or speed of the train. What else could he be talking about. Everyone else was scared shitless for when he finally decided to leave the train you could notice the obvious relief on people's profiles. Muscles had loosened up, the atmosphere less tense. If you think watchin the Exorcist by yourself all alone in a dark room is scary, this was live and unedited in your face footage!!!

The List of Why's

1. Why cant a female be platonic friends with a guy without him wanting more?
2. Why is a female labeled a slut if she hits it and quits it but men aren't deemed worthy of the same title?
3. Why do people fight for women's rights but when a female shows masculine traits she's labeled a BITCH by men and WOMEN?
4. Why do friendships among females always include jealousy and backstabbing?
5. Why cant I curse all I want without being looked at as vulgar and repulsive?
6. Why are men put off by women who want and like to pay for themselves?
7. Why am I expected to follow rules, be obedient, and docile female?
8. Why as a female am I expected to never show anger?? I'm not a fucking Stepford WIFE!! (This is a big one)
9. Why do bureaucratic institutions always take the credit for decisions and never give the credit to whomever actually came up with ideas!!
10. Why do short men hit on me.. ewww
11. Why do people not expect or accept a funny female as attractive?
12. Why is being funny considered a masculine trait?(another BIG 1)
13. Why do men expect me to laugh @ their corny jokes and when I don't they think theirs something wrong with me?
14. Why do straight men like it when women give them head but would never think of doing it themselves or sucking their own?
15. Why are women who questions things and are deep and thoughtful not attractive to the other sex.
16. Why does the world have to revolve around business and money.
17. Why spend so much $ on scientific research when most of it never gets applied.
There are lots more why's too many very few answers. Always questioning. Always in deep thought.

Developing a Business Mindset

This world revolves around money. So cliche but more and more everyday I am faced with this harsh reality. Everything costs money, time is money. Even water costs money! So where does this all lead, life is a business, just one big game. La vida es un negocio. The better you adapt to the game and think of yourself as being cast in the leading role with everyone else being the extra players the better equipped you will be to win the game! And don't we all want to win. A simple interaction with a customer service agent will easily include loads of offers for things you don't want or need..for what?.. to take your money. Does anyone lately help someone out from a sincere place in their heart. Customer service agents?? yeah right just one more corporate scheme to provide "help" while at the same time shoving offers down your throat. The world revolves around LOGIC. So it is in your LOGICAL best interest to shut business people out or incorporate business qualities into your personality. The thicker yours skin the higher the chances you have of succeeding in life. Even to attract a mate or be highly coveted by the opposite sex it all comes down to your shell: appearances. It's time to begin wearing lustrous top of the line business suits for all to see while concealing the intentions of the sly wolf within. In an attempt to adapt and succeed one must let the cunning wolf inside be your guide. Taking everything that comes your way and anyway who stands in it. Only the most ruthless, cunning, and composed thrive. Survival of the fittest that is what it all comes down to.

Fat people

I've never been mean to fat people and for the most part I can empathize with them due to the fact that I have family members and friends who are fat/overweight. I know its hard, my brother was overweight growing up due to a hormonal imbalance and it used to hurt me so much to see him hurt. For that reason I never make fun of fat people. I know they hurt they way he did. There's not much you can do when its a hormonal imbalance. I'm not fat by any means, never been probably never will be. My metabolism is extremely fast. It used to bother me before because I have always been super skinny. But I have come to appreciate it.

The thing that bothers me is fat people who try to take out their insecurities on you because they are fat and jealous. They are very quick to point out the smallest ounce of fat in an effort to make themselves feel like "Oh you see even this skinny bitch got fat." What the hell is up with that? Do I point out the disgusting fat hangin off your fat face and arms?! Do I point out the fact that you look like your ready to cook me and eat me?! Fat people need to shut up! I hate it when you offer people sympathy and they just spit it back in your face. Considering the fact that so many fat people have a hard time mating because the opposite sex is usually is disgusted by them why would they treat those who are nice to them like shit:?! Something I have always wondered about. Not only with fat people, but with people with low self esteem in general. After hangin out with someone who is physically, and emotionally unhealthy it makes you understand why it is that they are rejected. It makes you wanna reject them too. So disgusting.

Not only fat people, this also goes for people who have serious acne problems, discombobulated bodies, low confidence, yellow teeth, ugly by society's standards, judgemental etc. They put you down to make themselves feel better. They think that acting that way makes them look confident. Acting happy and bubbly, I mean dont get me wrong some of them are really cool but not when its self loath. I see so many fat people puttin themselves down, they think its funny to joke around about being fat but what they dont realize is that there are those who can see right through it. Its a facade, the funny facade. To cover up your hurt. Its not confidence no matter how you wanna make it seem that way, just because people laugh at your jokes doesnt mean they can't see through them. But they will go along with it to give you the ego stroke your lookin for. Dont go that route dont put yourself down to amuse other people. Take off the mask. If you recognize any of these things in yourself its time to stop. Cold turkey. And with this I conclude.

I hate Nosy people

She remarks on your outfits and accessories and asks where you get them? Or inquires about your job or internship? Maybe even seems to be very interested in your personal life or feelings? But can you honestly say you know much about them? Everyone's dealt with nosy people before. It is up to you to decide how you will react to them. We all choose whether consciously or unconsciously our reactions in any given situation. But some nosy people have no cure. It seems like they can't take a hint, so when you are pretty blunt or upfront about not wanting them too close in your life they take it personally. The worst type of nosy person is the nosy person who knows everyone's business but NO ONE knows ANYTHING about theirs. Beware of this type of person they usually come across as being very charismatic, friendly, trustworthy, and outgoing but do not be fooled. I hate these people. They are very careful and even go to great lengths such as lying before disclosing any information about themselves but will happily bask in the layers of your personal life. They will also happily use your personal life against you to back stab you, demean you, or gain a higher social role. Some of them are special enough to even copy some of whatever it is you have. We must be wary of those who inquire but never disclose. People like this MUST be kept at a DISTANCE. I learned that the best way to shutdown a nosy person is to simply reply with, "I don't ask you about your personal life, so please don't ask me about mine," or just make a funny joke along the lines of, "Damn _fill in the blank_ your always so nosy damn!," and watch that nosy motherfucker shutdown and maintain his/her distance!

WARNING: If this nosy person is really persistent just call them out on their shit or ignore them completely. Limit social interaction to the bare minimum eventually they will get the hint and back off. You will never have to deal with this person ever again!! Or you can go this route and punch that nosy bitch in their boob!

Relationship Art

"Without you I am still me"

Relationships are so hard. Finding a relationship that is real and meaningful and worthwhile. Even if your with someone if could fee like you are all alone. There's no difference.

"Dreaming of you dreaming of me"
But when you do find someone that is worthwhile there are so many different special little moments that feel so comfortable and unforgettable its like a lovely dream

Finding the Silver Lining Amongst the Recession

Overall, 2008 has seen its fair share of ups and downs. The U.S. economy has plummeted, the stock market is doing poorly, and if you were tuned into the news yesterday you would have known that Time Warner almost lost some of our most favored channels such as Nickelodeon, PBS, etc. to Viacom never to be seen again. They had to come to an agreement before midnight yesterday. Thankfully they did and millions of Americans will continue to enjoy our favorite childhood channels.

Let's also not forget that across the country many families are not sufficiently able to provide for their loved ones, unemployment rates have skyrocketed. The public demanded change and President elect Obama took stage. The year 2009, seems more promising now that the economy needs to get up and running smoothly again. Everyone is anticipating President Obama's promise for change but, amongst all the ups and downs we must find that silver lining.

There are many promising offers at the moment for travel. Trips to Mexico, The Bahamas, Iceland, The Caribbean, and even Ski resorts are more attractive now than ever. Travel is the perfect escape from a harsh reality bordering on depression. Economists are not promising anything but the road ahead is looking pretty bleak. All over the internet you can find cruises and flights to these areas for good prices. Travel and tourism companies in these areas are working with the masses to offer them good deals. Searching for deals on cruises on Carnival.com I was surprised to see how accommodating the prices are. You can find short 3-5 day cruises for as low as $200 coasting the Caribbean, Bahamas, and Mexico with Carnival Cruises. Many ski resorts are also accommodating their prices for this recession knowing that the cost and hassle of carrying around skis on air flights can be a hassle. It is the perfect time to schedule a trip!

Property prices are at an all time low due to a few screw ups by economists and home buyers over the last few years. More houses and properties were bought than could actually be tended to. Many buyers invested their money in real estate thinking they had struck the jackpot and were wealthier than they actually were. When balances were checked much of the money being used to buy these homes was pretty much nonexistent very similar to the situation that occurred at the beginning of the 20th century. With all this in mind it is the perfect time to buy a home. The best advice is to buy only as much as you can afford. With a good credit score between 720 and 760 you can place the down payment on a home of your liking and pay off your mortgage smoothly.

Check out these links for more information:

Perfect Time to Buy a Home
Perfect Time to Buy the Home of Your Dreams in California
What the 2008 Housing Crisis Means to Home Buyers in 2009

The coming of the New Year 2009 has brought with it a fluffy silver lining from which to reap opportunities! Enjoy!