Many times you are striving really hard towards a goal, or to stay in sync with your values. DO you ever stop to think how others view you? Sometimes I wonder about that, how do others view me. Most people are experts at looking at OTHERS and judging. Are you as much of an expert at introspecting and coming to terms with truths about yourself that you might not like?
Sometimes your strengths might be viewed by others as weaknesses or character defects.
- You find myself being sure of what I want or sure of what I know and others might view me as a KNOW IT ALL.
- You might be sharing my happiness with someone about something you have triumphed or achieved and others might view that as BOASTING.
- You might be dancing with your heart and spirit not giving a fuck about what someone else might think and others view that as SHOWING OFF.
- You find yourself not getting all worked up about situations or conflict and others might view that as INDIFFERENCE...not caring.
- You may come across as withdrawn, serious, quiet, not showing feelings. Others might think your COLD or even ARROGANT.
- Maybe you like to look good as often as possible. You might be labeled SUPERFICIAL/materialistic.
- You may feel confident, sure of yourself, independent, and decisive others might view that as ARROGANCE.
- What others view as INDECISION. You might view as simply waiting to get the absolute best deal or option.
Frankly at the end of the day you just have to be sure of what you want and what your goal is. Seek those things which you know will get you what you want. People usually only see what they want to see. Its scary to think that you are giving 100% of your best and others may only see 20%. You cannot allow this to bring you down. Stay on your path and do not allow yourself to be distracted. The road to success, enlightenment, and spirituality are usually lain with roadblocks. Others negative or misconstrued perceptions should not be a source of destruction of YOU. Do not let the essence of you be Corroded by hate.
You cannot please everyone. You cannot allow others to determine your path, or actions. Do what fills you with joy. You read that correctly???.......JOY....... If your actions, thoughts, words, opinions are not affecting anyone's life in a negative way..their comments or views are NOT important. There's so much goodness in the world, so many beautiful possibilities. Others might misc0ntrue the beautiful possibilities you bring to the world. Its your job to not allow those possibilities to be destroyed or overlooked.
Sometimes I wonder how others view me, depending on the situation you might see me as ditzy, arrogant, cold, Happy!, quiet, show-off, withdrawn, friendly, studious, Slacker, creative, logical......I just hope that the goodness that lies within my heart shines through. A fire that never dies. Never simmers. I hope others can see my strengths as shining rays of warm light and not as weaknesses or sources of hate. I cannot please everyone and was not put on this earth to please you!! I will never stop shining. Maybe you might think I do not shine lol. But I KNOW I do. I just hope that the REAL me is acknowledged in a positive way.
Signing off...
The Milky Way
Do NOT worry about how others see you (unless their feelings are hurt in some way)! The list you showed above is usually how insecure people respond to you. However, feedback from others is useful because it gives you a mirror (a distorted one) to re-evaluate yourself. If someone responds to me in a negative way I usually sit down, digest it and try to understand the values of that other person and why they have judged me that way. If I think that the judgment comes from their differences in values, background, etc. then I ignore it. If I see that it was misconduct on my part I try to correct it.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has their own lens in which they view the world.